I am sad.
Why? I just read some things that I think are NOT OK.
Listen here all of you Marines and Soldiers out there...It is NOT OK for you to abuse your wife, children or girlfriends. EVER. Do you hear me? EVER!!
Your time in combat and PTSD is not a free ticket of some sort for you to sling whatever you want verbally or physically.
Yes, the VA is failing you. However, you can get help and there are NO EXCUSES. There are non profits out there wiling to help. The Pathway Home...The Semper Fi Fund, Give an Hour, Impact A Hero, Hope for The Warriors, the list is long of people who will give you the support and help you need. Americans are sending money in for this very reason.
I am speaking to you from experience. Your loved ones want to help you. They want to love you. They want to hear about your experiences. Please stop and think about what you are doing. I don't advocate divorce and many of your loved ones are crying out for advice from women like me. They do not deserve to live like this.
The Captains Wife
***Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control and subjugate another human being through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, coercion, manipulation etc. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is emotional rather than physical in nature. It can include anything from verbal abuse and constant criticism to more subtle tactics, such as repeated disapproval or even the refusal to ever be pleased.
Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept. Whether it is done by constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of "guidance," "teaching", or "advice," the results are similar. Eventually, the recipient of the abuse loses all sense of self and remnants of personal value. Emotional abuse cuts to the very core of a person, creating scars that may be far deeper and more lasting that physical ones.***